Psychotherapist-Clinical Social Work
President, Haven Behavioral Health | Milwaukee, WI
One would imagine that those of us who are 50+ are happily settled into intimate relationships, safe and secure in our mutually respected love agreements. Well, for some, that’s simply is not the case. Many of us find ourselves, after years with our partners, questioning whether or not we’ve put in too much time because the love didn’t last beyond the fairytale. Often it’s not something that has recently popped into our minds. You’ve been thinking a long time that the relationship has run its course.
You and your partner may have grown in different directions, one (or both) of you have overwhelming health issues, you have political differences, sex ended years ago, or the long silences have turned into forever. But before you pack up and move in with one of the kids, you might want to realistically review your options and ask yourself these questions?
Have you realistically reviewed your displeasure with the relationship? You may have made yourself unhappy with unrealistic expectations by still wanting the fairytale of the prince in shining armor or comparing your situation with that of your friends and acquaintances. Write down the “issues” at hand. Review them with a trusted friend, therapist, or pastor before moving forward.